Emotional Intelligence Entrepreneur

The emotional intelligences in our business adaIah is the absolute. You start to summer? You think you have what it takes to be a wiraswastawan? You have read all the success stories about other people and it makes you "suffering"? True, readers, if that happens, it's time to become the boss yourself. But, whether you are ready to leave a good job and comfortable with a monthly salary, modern office, the secretary of efficient, safe and feeling that comes when you work for an organization that is established? A friend who has many years working on the largest national airline, with a staff of thousands, millions of salary, comprehensive facilities, all of a sudden just quit and decided berwirausaha. Words that are first received, "Are you mad?", .... "You destroy a career that promises to" ... .. and other obscenities. Not feeling the child-wife, parents and other relatives who can not say ... Required great courage to write a letter of resignation. Are you sure you still have everything that you will deliver wiraswastawan be a success? Then what will you do? Regulations first entrepreneurial, self latihlah you to see the emptiness or cranny in the market, and fill it. Look around you. Look people in the street, those who sit behind the sewing machine, services, what will he give? Look woman woman sate chicken seller in cheap lodgings near it, why he choose that location? How about the new hotel on the main road that, why be so successful? What about the people who work at the computer can be very successful in the business software program itself? There is one short answer to all this question: this business exist because they have that need. No matter whether you try the chicken thigh, good restaurants, or website. Or, if you talk about the daily round of Rp100.000 or Rp.100.000.000. From Tanah Abang - Jakarta Pusat, Glodok - Central Jakarta, and even the Sawangan, Privinsi Depok West Java, the same principle: ? Success in business ? Working with the principles ? Finding a vacancy ? And fill it! When the men found with digemparkan blue pill Viagra that is actually the drug pemacu heart, but then so pemacu organ male virility, a few years ago all over the world simultaneously publish it (remember, Viagra did not advertise in any media). The result, a Viagra product of the year and generate billions of dollars for penemunya. Case of Viagra in the world, it seems to provide inspiration for Jonathan Simon. After previous successful birth Extra Joss, which generate hundreds of billions, and muncullah Irex is more or less the same function with Viagra. With the tag line "Gift Birthday Mama", and is packed with ads that diperankan by male emaciated and loyo, suddenly became strong after the Irex, the result, this product in the market explode. Yes, they see opportunities jelly, and fill a vacuum. Then why are not you doing this? If you are the first to offer the public something that the public needs and not obtained from other people, or if you anticipate a need for success in the future, you have a good chance to become rich. Until there is competition, you will have the market all alone. History provides many examples of a successful wiraswastawan meet or anticipate the need for new products. Isaac Merit Singer sewing machine that produces perfect for working in limited space, even in the room though. The Henry Ford assembly line method to produce cars that ordinary people can be purchased. George Eastman akan needs to see a small camera that can take-take. Ray Mc Donald Krock of the potential business food fast food franchises. Where do ideas come like that? There are three kinds of ideas. First, your job. Work that you do can become a potential source of ideas, instinct disitulah Because your business has been developed. Second, your hobbies or interests outside of work, because it is an area where you have a natural feeling. Third source, is what is often referred to as the "pedestrian observation", or identify an opportunity through a regular meeting, or an incident in the life of your day-to-day. If your first, you will not be brilliant. Later you will have time to develop and improve everything that you do pemah. But when the others start to compete with you, then you must be the best. Working Hard Wiraswastawan a fortune is not easy. You have to work hard. However, as you work your disebagian big time, surely there is a price to be paid. The first victim is your social life. Time for dating, for the family, even for a sengang will not have your period during the early-run your business .. Can-can this be a lonely life. In circumstances like this when you are very lucky to have a sweetheart or a wife who is faithful in the love and accompany grief. Because being an entrepreneur is also the resistance problem. As the cloudy wet season. After the rain was coming down, the sky will be bright again. There is compensation. The harder you work, you will be more successful. We have partners, the name Apiko Joko Mulyono. He was, "just" a reporter in the tabloids Muslim family, Fikri name. As the employee - if the theory quadrant Robert T. Kiyosaki - our thanks to the encouragement, and expertise interpersonalnya ", to communicate, he wedged into our journalists" semi-business "in the sense, and enable journalistic skills to write a soft lobbynya advertorial. Although initially somewhat reluctantly, he memula roles such copywriter, author of the advertorial soft tabloidnya (mean: promotional rubric nuanced, with the two types of compensation: the number of direct sales in a certain minimum, or semi-ad). Bung Apiko, although still jurnalistiknya my profession, begin to run new task. The result? Unusual for a reporter who worked throughout the four-year, purely as a journalist. Apiko successfully achieve the target. He really worked hard, and sacrificing a bit time for the family. Not only that. He was "brazen" dicibiri as "journalists matre" (materialist, Pen.), Because the more selective in his article on the issues of "nutritious" can alias the "direct sale" or "semi advertorial". Due to continued, can be to guess. From "play" so seriously. Bossnya, the leader of the company Fikri tabloids, even targeting a certain amount perminggunya he must achieve. the target, is reached, even exceeded several times. What's he doing, everyone in the company know. Although any risk Dilecehkan, Apiko resistant rock. The show must go on. What dikerjakannya, other Conference business units under the umbrella holding the same. "Syukur, my wife is very understanding. To work that hard, I can save money with the value compared to the rather selevel my colleagues. I buy a motorcycle in cash, in the second year I worked. That's something that I did not imagine at all, that I can afford it. "Apiko That is, a pity because it is still in the profession jurnalistiknya, a new claim to not use half of the potential that exists in enterprenership himself. "Someone who works 16 hours a day will come to the place you want to dicapainya two times faster than people who work 8 hours a day." David Ogilvy Perseverance Jaques Cousteau, researcher, inventor and environmental experts in an interview with Eugene Grisham book author Achievement Factors in an interview on a jet carteran toward Atlanta, reveal interesting opinions. Our quotation for you. "What you can do all of that?" Cousteau halt a few moments, then replied. "I'm hard-headed - if I have a purpose in my head ... I make a list of things to play: the Amazon, Haiti, ships Angina. I try, and I do not have the money. I try again, and I can not be money, and after ten years I have. " Wisely, with full embroidery and diligence, always pursue what he wanted, sometimes fast, sometimes slow, he has experienced victory, victory. In the year 1943, oxygen tubes (AQUALUNG) that he developed with emile Gagnan, giving the opportunity of adventure under the water, open the world under the water for millions of scuba divers. Then he developed skills as an expert in photography under the water, and in 1956, he was Oscar win for The Silent World. Nine years later he again won the oscar for the World Without Sun. When this age 80-an. Cousteau and grandfather are still working, still checking the things that he recorded in the list, sort the list, and execute the target list items. Focus Logic "focusing," borrowed phenomenon sun. Mahakarya God, the source of energy is very strong, that every jamnya illuminate the earth with millions of kilowatt energy. Anyone can "sun bath" for hours with the risk that light. How about the laser? Seberkas sinarnya, energy is weak. He only needs a few kilowatt of energy but can be focused into a beam of coherent light. Seberkas of laser light, the findings of scientists can use it to cut from the steel to kill cancer cells. Switch on a business conference. You can create the same effect: a strong ability to dominate like a laser market. That is our purpose as a "focus on action." When a business does not become the focus, it will lose strength. Business is becoming like the sun, too much energy to spread the product, the market is too broad. Concentration, the ability to give full attention to the task that faced, and in the long term, concentrate on a career, is one aspect of focus. But not only that. Other terms, the intensity. Intensity involving the ability to distribute a large amount of energy on the task faced. Run it as a habit, will improve your career. In analog, the focus has a job to the same person, vessel lens held in the Council on sehelai paper on a sunny day. Hold the lens with the right angle, make-ray diffraction to concentrate on one point, was able to burn the paper. Priority, enter the idea in focus. Do not be reluctant to change and put the most important as number one if something unexpected arises. Work on the basis of priority. Did you know, what a secret number one success? Priority. Helen Gurley Brown Tentukanlah what top priority in the work with to think carefully what your company employs. Many people make the mistake of working hard for each task that they face, without or with very few consider the importance of the tasks. At the end of the day, they will be very tired, while praising themselves for all the work already completed. Unfortunately, there are already over without realizing important work (important) and urgent (urgent). Only important, it may not be in the top uturan, but urgent, something related to the deadline, which can not not, it precedence or something bad menghadangnya. Letakkanlah letters, memos and memo-warning-warning about all the other tasks that are waiting in the map-map with a priority A, B, and C. Alan Lakein, Time Management Consultant Discuss the matter of focus, we can cite in Eugene Grisham Factor in Achievement, the book is best seller world. He tells about the success factors, the results of the interviews for many years with successful figures of the world. Conclusion that only one book: "To succeed in a big field, any field, it takes time at least ten years with a fixed focus on the field." We believe the correct conclusion of the book. We have evidence, a man who we know enough, since graduating high school, living from trading and not pemah moved except on the field of business products that are household tune the mother. In fact, not until ten years old, he was successful in the field of digelutinya. That is the power of focus. Bath water menetesi a stone, setetes for setetes; day switch day, year changed its year, in time, we terkaget-akan surprised to see the fact that the stone has sunken into the water just because it drops.

(Inspiring ARTICLE) Learn to live

The world rotates quickly ...... as soon as our eyes blink ....... as soon as we reverse the hands ..... Wanderlei Luxemburgo palatih intelligent, expert strategies, very early in the coming disanjung to Real madrid ...... chance meeting six months later with the sack jaw ..... return to Brazil to bring only one bag .... dirty clothes .... can not afford to pay for laundry in Madrid ...... Titus ...... Prince Roman the brave, thn. 70 BC he destroyed Jewish culture .... six months later because of death by syphilis seleranya not only on women ??.... John Barxton ..... . Finally beg on how Bill Gates works for the children ..... .. Bill Gates who he pecat six years ago from the company when Bill Gates accidentally menyenggol car with a stick dinasnya (Bill Gates was using a stick to walk) ..... Marie Goretti superior Caramel french did not believe that Claudia Suzzane requested to lead the Ordo nuns in the whole world including the French ..... . Claudia Suzzane six years ago was a young nun who recommended him for the "waste" to Egypt and through his life in the monastery with the desert climate is hard because of conflict with himself ..... Marie Goretti, earlier in the morning Misa Of Claudia, kissed the hand of Claudia as a sign of respect at the highest leaders of Ordo is .... Claudia is still smiling benevolently as the time he left France and ask for Marie Goretti not kiss hands ... .. Marie Gorretti can only shed airmata haru .. Willy is very grateful to the Sarno, Sarno morning before saving the life of his son took him to the Caecil Hospital Mitra Keluarga Bekasi, her son by a motorcycle while running akan menyebrang TK place close to school, then take a chance Sarno and immediately help him, if only too late, then Caecil akan paralysis and loss of power ingatnya, or even died ... ... Sarno, a former Office Boy Office Willy, at that time as Head of Section General Willy ask Sarno "exit Sincerely" as a Sarno love with Ully receptionist at the office and plan to marry, Sarno and Ully finally decided to go out and build a small business . ... "No, what I can to bantu jasamu reply? you have worked? where? how Ully news? ' However Willy mencecar Sarno with questions .. ... Sarno just smiled and shed airmata, he does not want to offend ...... Willy Currently, in the name of almarhumah Ully who died at birth, Sarno and the two children are still small kembarnya is the holder of 93.5% stock company where Willy working group and some companies because the business hard .... and he still smiles when he farewell with Willy six years ago ........ Humans can and will act, but God have plan Six years? Six months? Six weeks? Six days? Six Hours? Six minutes? Six seconds? ........... as soon as DIA akan whether to reverse if you do not know themselves? "Hopefully we are including people - people who are thankful that favors diberikanNya up. ...."

"BRAVE", CAPITAL START Entrepreneur

We believe that, if the entrepreneur has a vision, it will be better able to create a positive force in the pikirannya. So that will be more able to work and improve the quality of our lives. Because of this I strongly believe with the following phrase: "Be careful with the notion-anganmu, because the goal-anganmu it will become a reality" RI's first President, Ir. Soekamo, never says, "Hang sorrow citamu-sky." Vision is that people can mensugesti. And, all the steps we will be directed there. Moreover, this entrepreneur is usually a pemimpi. But the dream of the company, dream about the future, will be able to influence the entrant who dipimpinnya. Your "torch interpreter," banish dark thoughts of others who you pimpin. This principle of leadership. Entrepreneurs who have the vision, is the explanation for the subordinates, members of "team success" in its business. Entrepreneurs with great vision, awakening stimulate business atmosphere full of creativity and innovation. Even people believe, the soul of entrepreneurs, near the castle of the world. What susahnya, visions? Visions of the activity is "cheap." Bagaimaan not, because the visions do not require special facilities, let alone cost. Now also, you can see visions. Of course, an illusion entrepreneurs, not any visions. In fact, in time of trouble, with the piles of life issues that must be shouldered, can also make people dare not berhkayal. You akan tercenung, if we say, "no fancies, need courage!" Why? Delusion that trigger the success, or at least, have the courage and berkreativitas, dihambat view of the long-entrenched cuku root in our mind, that person must successfully ditopang formal education and degree. In fact, this confidence can be broken easily. For example, hadirkan course, some names of people who successfully pass the high school was not. A number of entrepreneurs, start from the illusion. And he began to develop khayalannya, from zero until finally materialized. Bill Gates dream, a personal computer will be available in the house each person. To realize the dream, he drop out of studies, selecting Microsoft menekuni it. He succeeded. Now, it is one of the world's richest people. Michael Dell, have the incredible dream: the company's computer giant IBM. He also succeeded in becoming the first to market personal computers with direct marketing strategies. Businesses that successfully dirintis 1984, Dell Computer sales in demand sweet. Dell even in the age of 34 years successfully become one of the richest people in the United States. Other example, Jeff Bezos. Dream, to become successful entrepreneurs in the world e-commerce, trade through the intemet. Although the new year 1995, ie at age 30 years, he nyemplung to the virtual world, up the Amazon. com. Site melejit into the site most often people, get information or to purchase quality books from around the world. Dreams realized. He also noted as the country's miliarder uncle Sam that. Try the If we dare to try, and we are more diligent and ulet, then surely never have a failure Modern business will stop rotating if the attitude of trying to flee. Indeed, many people fail in business, without despair, do not dare to try again. This is not only not harmful aspects of the course material or financial, but also psychological aspects. Therefore, despite the crisis, remains to be entrepreneur with a high entrepreneurial spirit. Surely not have failed in doing that is only because he tried to stop, stop trying. Dare to try, more diligent and ulet, failure will not ever have. Beranilah try. For, no one in the world, including the entrepreneur in the world that can replace the courage to try the talent business. As well as any talent someone, will not be successful without trying to start. How kejeniusan with someone? Also, do not. Kejeniusan hidden, it is the same with the hot-empty. Best education? It is also not a guarantee. This world is full of unemployed graduates licensed. And apparently, once again, the courage to try and attempt that determines the success of our business. Dare Merantau Wander courage, build confidence and independence Remember Sampit tragedy? All heavy, partly because the ethnic Madurese success, join hengkang from Sampit, Central Kalimantan. We are not menyoal tragedinya, but the aspect of entrepreneurship. Madura and Kalimantan, is not as clear among the houses in a village. These two islands are different and far apart. But, how many people are still born in Madura, Madura, and wander to Sampit. Many, even many children and then fall-born in Kalimantan. Part of their success, although originally from zero. We just want to say, they are "out of nothing", wander, and success. The other ethnic fenomenal, the Javanese origin Tegal. Only the capital, they taklukkan. If you want to calculate the number of stalls "beridentitas area" most of which, the answer: Public Tegal. People in the food sector, there are around meatball vendor. Many of them, mengusung regional identity. Malang as meatball, Wonogori noodle, Pecel Lamongan, or Padang restaurants. More fenomenal, and also more global, Chinese immigrants who are successful in the country that they go. Did you often travel across the region, heard, or Javanese transmigrants farmers bali, much success as transmigrants in Sumatra, Sulawesi or? Success in business, also supported a daring: wander. Going away, have a distinctive social meaning. He means "far from the family" that trigger the awakening of the soul self. Not depend on the family, then began to move into adulthood. In the region, especially in environments that do not know who we are before, you can be a private one. This innovation, laden challenge. Going away, what we bring to the advantages and disadvantages us because we are exposed to the new reality-a reality. Going away, make someone relatively strong, because diterjunkan in many new situations. Immigrants, generally reluctant resort. In situlah, a willingness to be more motivated. Immigrants, are reluctant to average much obliged. Thus, it is because the new immigrants tended to inculcate a service to many people. "Social investment", in time bear fruit goodness. Who is suspected, many people like our personality, bernagsur gradually, becoming one of the faithful we weave success. So? Try to wander, you find a respite jatidiri, creative, and capture opportunities perceptivity The Failed Only the brave fail yaug total, akan achieve total success. John STATEMENT. F. Kennedy is true. one of us, membuktikannya. Failed total, the business career, Purdi E. Chandra in his book "Being a Successful Entrepreneur" bertutur: "End in 1981, was not satisfied with the pattern of boring lectures that I leave the campus. I think at that time, failed to reach a degree, but not necessarily pursue ideals fail-citanya. 1982, I then began to pioneer business guidance Primagama test, which later changed to Institute Learning Assistance Primagama. I run the business with the fallen building. Initially, the peminat quiet, only two people! At this time, wow, peminatnya membludak, up-to Primagama to open branches in hundreds of cities, and guidance into learning institutions in Indonesia. " In social life, that failure is a word that is not so easy to be heard. Failure is not something the preferred, and an event that everyone does not want it. We can not ignore us, the real-real still prefer to see a successful person than the person who fails to see, even people who do not like to fail. So, if you find an entrepreneur who failed in business, do not hope that people will praise you; people around you and your client will understand why you fail, you do not disalahkan; all still remain friends around you, you will get moral support friend from the other; There are people who akan meminjami money as temporary assistance; Moreover, this bank will provide more loans! No way! Why a picture of a failed entrepreneur, we gambarkan so bad? That's our society. We tend to praise the successful and winning, and easy to menghujat losers and failed. We suggest, we start each culture change that, give both the opportunity for each person. According to our experience, when people fail, there is no use thinking about the failure and morose. But the need to explore it. Failure enerpreneur should make sincere tertantang to find new forces to achieve success again. Of course, cases of failure in business or the working world, when the economic crisis exacerbated, indeed more. Thousands of people affected Termination Relationships Work (PHK) and loss of eye pencahariannya. Ironic, indeed, just like us, like it or not, every man will experience a variety of issues, perhaps even suffering. An entrepreneur, have to risk failure, and quotes hikmahnya. Perhaps the only failure came to glorify our hearts, cleanse our minds from the snobbery and insularity, broaden our perspective and approach to better ourselves to God. To teach us to be valiant when unguarded. Being brave when we are afraid. ltu reason, we can agree on the Richard Gere, Hollywood's leading actors, "failure is important for the career to anyone." Why? Many people make the same mistake, with the failure as the enemy of success. Vice versa. we should assume that failure can bring results. Remember, we must be sure to find success in the failure. but why someone failed in business. Because there are some general. First, we often assess this ability within us is too low. Second, every act, we are often influenced by myths that appear in the society around us. Third, we are usually too "melankolis" and like the first sentence to myself, that we were born with a bad fate. Fourth, we tend to still have the attitude, would not know from where we should start a business again. With the failure to know that, of course we will make sure to address them. Make our experience nine out of ten things that we do have failures, then we should work ten times more enterprising. With attitudes and thoughts such as these, it will still make as we figure entrepreneur who is always optimistic akan future. So, we should not like to measure an entrepreneur with a count how many times he fell. But the measure, how many times he rose again. The Success How much food we want, the same with how big we dare to take risks SUKSES is the process. It was achieved with sacrifice. One of them, not with the mawkish failure. Success, think of you daily. Confidence can be successful, always built at any time. Therefore, do not let you lose your motivation for success, and continue to build confidence in the bosom. Dispose of all reason, you fail because of your weakness. Less intelligent, less fit, are too old, and a myriad of "poor taste", not the reason you failed. Success requires courage without stopping, learn the business slowdown. With each problem with the way other successful entrepreneurs in a similar business with you. In fact, you see that they failed, and find the answer to why he failed. Readiness of private entrepreneurs face a change, also dipermantap. Do not easy dikejutkan changes. Learn the success of others, himpun all "causes of success" is, find the excess-excess, and start trying to arrange what advantages you, what can ditelurkan the novelty of the process compare with the efforts of others. One entrepreneur, who is always "awake" and "open ear" to every opportunity. Successful entrepreneurs, not simply "food from heaven", but also the carefulness in work / capture opportunities. And this business requires a high stamina. Do not fear comes first, as if the entrepreneurs who never rest. No! Physical, needs to rest, but as entrepreneurs, thought "keep the road" in the sense, our daily dibiasakan continue to think, the good-good what can be built on the opportunities that we face every time. No one can get pleasure out of life that continues to make slow-rangkak, who lives half. Success means that the only things that fascinate and positive. Success means personal prosperity: a good house, in the field of financial security and opportunity ahead of the maximum, and useful for the community. Success also means that the gain honor, leadership, and the patriarch. Thus, success means that the self-respect, feel honored, continue to feel happier, and feel the satisfaction of their lives. That means, we succeeded in doing more things that are useful. In other words, success means winning. Unfortunately, globalization diera like this now, not all the entrepreneur says, that has achieved success. According to us, as entrepreneurs, do not shrink from you declare: I this day a success. Hence, the confidence that is awakened. Self-confidence is a big, raised the spirit to achieve success. Success and that, also need to be divided among businessman. Never so busy that a successful entrepreneur, in her social life when there are requested to assist other entrepreneurs who have not been as successful as himself. Believe, in the soul of a successful entrepreneur, there is confidence: God is great strength that encourages people, including the entrepreneurs, not to self. Because the time to see other people happy "only to fail," sejatinya are waves awaits menerpanya failure. So, think beranilah success! Unlike the Munculkanlah courage in a new era, notwithstanding that we are ready to pay the price that people laugh, ridicule, and criticize us. Why do people laugh we? Or more lightly than that, why people underestimate us? Because we are different. But, what if our one different? Kenyataaannya, is going to be different since we are born. Each individual in the world is different. No one has 100% the same as the other. Fingerprints we just prove this fact - that no two fingerprints are the same in the world. Every one of us is different - unique. Unique and separate us we are one with the other. If we really want to succeed in this life, this munculkanlah talent from within, let it shine so bright. Originality idea, where you reveal "something new and bright", akan keberbedaan make it, giving more value for your time. The better we differ. And, our difference from the other, is manifest diligence we become MORE GOOD. Alone, further, among the many people who hold nearly the same on a matter, then you keberbedaan, received and accepted many of the world. Extraordinary, bukan.Mari, use the energy you generate vigorous differences. The difference of value. "The private sector plays a larger role in the world economy. Employers have to seize a small multi-billions of dollars from big business. " John Naisbit

10 Recipes SUKSES BANGSA JAPANESE

By Romi Satria Wahono 1. WORK HARD It is the secret that the Japanese nation is working hard. The average employee work hours in Japan is 2450 hours / year, very high compared with the United States (1957 hours / year), UK (1911 hours / year), Germany (1870 hours / year), and France (1680 hours / year). An employee in Japan can produce a car in 9 days, while officials in other countries require 47 days to make the car worth the same. A Japanese worker can be said to do the work usually done by 5-6 people. Home quickly is something that can be said "a bit shame "in Japanese, and shows that the employee including "not required" by the company. 2. Shame Malu is a cultural and ancestral heredity nation of Japan. Suicide (suicide with a knife thrust to the stomach) to the ritual since the era of samurai, that is when they lose and fight. Log In to the modern world, little changed wacananya phenomenon to "draw self "for officials (ministry, politicians, etc.) involved in the problem corruption, or failed to perform its duty feel. Negative effects may is children Elementary sometimes suicide, because the value is ugly or does not increase the class. Also because of shame, the Japanese prefer to choose a detour from the drivers behind with the cut line in the middle of the road. They are ashamed of when they violate environmental laws or norms that already a general agreement. 3. HIDUP HEMAT Japanese people have the spirit in daily life sparingly. Anti attitude excessive consumerism is visible in many areas of life. In the early start of life in Japan, I had great surprise to the many people shopping in the crowded Japanese at the supermarket around 19:30 hours. A careful critical, the has become a regular on the Japanese supermarket that will be cut up to half price at the time about a half hour before closing. As known in the Japanese supermarket that average close to the at 20:00. 4. Loyalty Loyalty system to make a career in running a company and is the neat. With a slightly different system in the United States and Europe, Japan is very rare that people moved jobs. They usually stay on one or two companies until retirement. This may be the implications of Industry in Japan that most only want to receive a fresh graduate, and that their own students and latih according to the field garapan (core business) companies. 5. Innovation Japanese inventor is not the nation, but people have a surplus in Japan meracik the findings and then memasarkannya in the form of a sought by the community. Interesting to read the story Akio Morita of the Sony Walkman that melegenda it. Cassete Tape not found by Sony, patennya company owned by Phillip Electronics. But the successful development and membundling portable model as a product during the boom tens of years is Akio Morita, founder and CEO of Sony at that time. Until 1995, there were more than 300 models walkman born and the number of total production reached 150 million products. Assembly techniques are also four-wheeled vehicles are not created the Japan, patennya owned by the United States. But apparently the Japanese inovasinya able to develop the vehicle assembly industry is more fast and cheap. 6. Abstinence surrender History proves that the Japanese nation, including the resistance and banting abstinence surrender. Tens of years under the Tokugawa empire close all access to other countries, Japan is very left behind in technology. When the Meiji restoration (Meiji ishin) come, the Japanese quickly adapt and become a fast-learner. Poverty of natural resources also does not make Japan surrender. No only importer petroleum, coal, wood and seeds of iron, even 85% of Japan's energy comes from other countries including Indonesia. Indonesia it is reported that the supply of petroleum, then 30% of Japan akan darkness disaster occurred in the sequence 1945, starting from the atomic bomb on Hiroshima and Nagasaki, followed lose the war with Japan, and ditambahi with the earthquake big in Tokyo. In fact Japan is not exhausted. In recent years Japan is the next successful build the automotive industry and even also fast train (shinkansen). May be quite startling how Matsushita Konosuke that businesses were destroyed and almost tersingkir from electronic business equipment in 1945 are still able to crawl, start from zero to build the industry so that a business in the kingdom kekinian era. Akio Morita also initially laughable when people offer products that tiny Cassete Tapenya to various other countries. But eventually melegenda with his Sony Walkman. Which is also quite unique that knowledge and theory in which people must learn from this failure formulated in Japan began with the name shippaigaku (science failure). Kapan-kapan akan I peeled more about this 7. CULTURE READ Do not be surprised if you come to Japan and into densha (train electricity), most of the passengers both children and adults are reading books or newspapers. Do not care to sit or standing, many who have used the time to read the densha. Many publishers began to create a man-ga (image comic) to curriculum materials both elementary schools, junior high and high school. Subject History, Biology, English, etc. are presented with the interesting create interest in reading the higher the community. I have previously discussed problem of education in the comics this blog. Reading culture Japanese people also supported by the speed in the translation process foreign books (English, French, German, etc.). Perhaps say Translation legend foreign books have been started in the year 1684, as dibangunnya institute translating and hold developed until modern times. Usually Japanese translation book already available in a few weeks since the book foreign published. 8. COOPERATION GROUP Culture in Japan do not accommodate the work-work that is too are individualistik. Including claims of employment, usually is for the team or group. This phenomenon not only in the world of work, the condition of the campus with a research lab is also like that, the task subjects are also usually in the form of the group. Working in groups may be one of the biggest strength of the Japanese. There anekdot that "1 the Japanese professor akan less with one the American professor, the professor is only 10 United States will not can overcome the 10 people who collect Japanese professor. " Consensus or agreement is often called the "rin-gi" is a ritual in the group. Strategic decisions must be discussed in the "rin-gi". 9. MANDIRI Since early age children are trained to self. Irsyad, my child is gede most had felt the incoming kindergarten (Yochien) in Japan. He must 3 large carry bag containing clothes change, Bento (food packing noon), replace the shoes, books, towels and a bottle of drink hang on his neck. Yochien in every child be trained to carry equipment itself, and is responsible for own items alone. Release of high school and enter college is not nearly the majority of request a cost to parents. Friends-What I used in the contemporary Saitama University rely on part time work for school fees and daily life. Even if the money runs out, they "borrow" the money to parents that they will return in the next month. 10. Keep the tradition Technology and economic development, Japan does not make a nation loss of tradition and culture. Culture of women who married not to work there and still live to this day. Culture apologize still reflek Japanese. If a day you ride a bicycle in Japan and hit pedestrian, then do not surprised if the fact that we tabrak apologize ahead. Until now the Japanese are relatively avoid saying "no" to when people get a bid from another. So we must be careful in association with the Japanese people as "O" not necessarily "yes" for Agriculture is the Japanese tradition of ancestor and important asset in Japanese. Competition because of the entrance of Thailand and the United States the cheap, not menyurutkan steps the Japanese government to protect the farmer. It is reported that the land made the land agriculture have a significant tax reduction, including some incentives for those who still survive in the world agriculture. Japanese agriculture is one of the highest in the world. Japan Kalihatannya success of the nation as described above is because they are not directly aware of and does not have to do that by Allah SWT and Rasulullah SAW. Hopefully this can we as Muslims to follow what has been ordered for us so that success can be world and the Hereafter we achieve. Aamiiin.

10 benefit of rising early

Every Thursday is Happiness Day on Zen Habits.
"Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise" - Ben Franklin, famously
"Put no trust in the benefits to accrue from early rising, as set forth by the infatuated Franklin ..." - Mark Twain
Recently, reader Rob asked me about my habit of waking at 4:30 a.m. each day, and asked me to write about the health benefits of rising early, which I thought was an excellent question. Unfortunately, there are none, that I know of.
However, there are a ton of other great benefits.
Now, let me first say that if you are a night owl, and that works for you, I think that's great. There's no reason to change, especially if you're happy with it. But for me, switching from being a night owl to an early riser (and yes, it is possible) has been a godsend. It has helped me in so many ways that I'd never go back. Here are just a few:
Greet the day. I love being able to get up, and greet a wonderful new day. I suggest creating a morning ritual that includes saying thanks for your blessings. I'm inspired by the Dalai Lama, who said, " Everyday, think as you wake up, 'today I am fortunate to have woken up, I am alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others, to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings, I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others, I am going to benefit others as much as I can.' "
Amazing start. I used to start my day by jumping out of bed, late as usual, and rushing to get myself and the kids ready, and rushing to drop them to school and come in to work late. I would walk into work, looking rumpled and barely awake, grumpy and behind everyone else. Not a great start to your day. Now, I have a renewing morning ritual, I've gotten so much done before 8 a.m., my kids are early and so am I, and by the time everyone else gets in to work, I've already gotten a head start. There is no better way to start off your day than to wake early, in my experience.
Quietude. No kids yelling, no babies crying, no soccer balls, no cars, no television noise. The early morning hours are so peaceful, so quiet. It's my favorite time of day. I truly enjoy that time of peace, that time to myself, when I can think, when I can read, when I can breathe.
Sunrise. People who wake late miss one of the greatest feats of nature, repeated in full stereovision each and every day -- the rise of the sun. I love how the day slowly gets brighter, when the midnight blue turns to lighter blue, when the brilliant colors start to seep into the sky, when nature is painted in incredible colors. I like doing my early morning run during this time, and I look up at the sky as I run and say to the world, "What a glorious day!" Really. I really do that. Corny, I know.
Breakfast. Rise early and you actually have time for breakfast. I'm told it's one of the most important meals of the day. Without breakfast, your body is running on fumes until you are so hungry at lunchtime that you eat whatever unhealthy thing you can find. The fattier and sugarier, the betterier. But eat breakfast, and you are sated until later. Plus, eating breakfast while reading my book and drinking my coffee in the quiet of the morning is eminently more enjoyable than scarfing something down on the way to work, or at your desk.
Exercise. There are other times to exercise besides the early morning, of course, but I've found that while exercising right after work is also very enjoyable, it's also liable to be canceled because of other things that come up. Morning exercise is virtually never canceled.
Productivity. Mornings, for me at least, are the most productive time of day. I like to do some writing in the morning, when there are no distractions, before I check my email or blog stats. I get so much more done by starting on my work in the morning. Then, when evening rolls around, I have no work that I need to do, and I can spend it with family.
Goal time. Got goals? Well, you should. And there's no better time to review them and plan for them and do your goal tasks than first thing. You should have one goal that you want to accomplish this week. And every morning, you should decide what one thing you can do today to move yourself further towards that goal. And then, if possible, do that first thing in the morning.
Commute. No one likes rush-hour traffic, except for Big Oil. Commute early, and the traffic is much lighter, and you get to work faster, and thus save yourself more time. Or better yet, commute by bike. (Or even better yet, work from home.)
Appointments. It's much easier to make those early appointments on time if you get up early. Showing up late for those appointments is a bad signal to the person you're meeting. Showing up early will impress them. Plus, you get time to prepare.

9 Oil Motivation

1. TAKLUKKAN self "He who can conquer others is a strong man. He who can conquer himself is a super human being. "(Lao Tze) Contemplation Up: 1. Night, while lying asleep, take a 1 - 2 minutes. 2. Make a reflection of today's rapidly only. 3. Check in yourself: "Are there any negative emotions that are stored in myself at this time?" 4. Then, pull the breath in and hold breath for you can do. 5. Imagine the events that cause negative emotions. 6. Dispose of the release and exhale the breath as long as possible. 7. Continue to breathe slowly only, and more slowly, until the entire body feels rileks vessel without muscle. 8. Silent a moment and take a decision to change, for example: "Tomorrow would smile aja aaah ..." and tidurlah with a smile ... zzz ... zzz ... Because if we start with a sincere can conquer yourself, then defeat is not defeat, is not it? 2. LEARN FROM defeat "If you learn something from the defeat, Indeed, you do not lose "(Zig Ziglar) When you "feel" less, do the following: - Sit down and pull the silent sigh - Find the cause of defeat (only faster) - Take a lesson from the defeat - Pejamkan eyes: give thanks and Tersenyumlah - Hembuskan breath as soon as possible - Bangkit and lompatlah possible There must be a wisdom of every incident, even if it has "lost". 3. Respited sea ... (BayangkanWS Rendra, say thank and honor as admirable in him, into him self and bacakan lyrics below, bak WAS Rendra) Life is a series of problems. If we view it as a problem. Life is a series of challenges. If we view it as an opportunity. Important challenge for the mind muscle. Challenges make us grow. Challenges make us creative. (please read the following while hembuskan breath) Be grateful if we have any challenges. Because this means we have a chance. (hold breath in the stomach and read with the strong confidence) Yes, a chance to Win. Ancient proverb says: "Ocean of calm, does not produce strong seamen " Atasilah problems with: Keep smiling. Keep your hands side by side. We are just different, that's it. 4. Giat SUKSES KEY WORK "No way I Mulus for Success, Working is the key-ahead "(George G Williams) Contemplation Up: Results of research that says Perseverance, tenacity, persistence will make muscle in the body strong, muscular body good, hand muscle, foot muscle, even "muscle" in our brain. The most important thing is to make our mind strong muscles. "You might not understand the Work Smart, before you have a mental Hard Work "(Krishnamurti) Indonesia situations may not stabilized, but we must be fate that we determine. We are quite spicy on the things that we can kendalikan. 5. Who is rich? "Who is rich? He rejoiced with what it has. "(Benjamin Franklin) Contemplation Up: Rejoiced and thankful with what we have, it will make our growing and prosperous prosperous. Law of the universe about success is actually very simple. We just need self-confidence only that this is true. 6. Choose TO BE HAPPY ... We always have a choice We can choose to be happy or we can choose to be grumpy But it's always better, smarter and wiser to choose to be happy ... (Melody Ross) Self-contemplation: (read in the heart with slow tempo) "This is not the life choice?" (read slower) "This is not the life choice?" (read more slowly more) "This is not the life choice?" 7. SETIA TO HAL KECIL Not a great action and great, that determine our lives, but fidelity in menekuni jobs and small does not mean .... (Teresa bunda) Contemplation Up: Please read the message above repeatedly until the permeate. How can the slow, very slow, even very, very slowly. Can also read in the heart with a feeling steady. Or, re-started again in the heart for a certain part. "faithfulness menekuni small jobs" "faithfulness menekuni work that does not mean" Yes, that is easy to read, but the need for careful mencerna greatness. And, for the determination of menelannya. So beautiful so that the surge in our blood. Because the enemy is the ego self. But, perhaps! 8. Dreamland NEED EXAMS (See the rhetorical style of Bung Karno) and again we make a different dream I think our mare be ridiculed tense smile we disiniskan kala color spirit start meluntur make a dream a while heart bias keep it forward and hold keep hold on the dream we build confidence for the confidence not the kite flying high because against the wind (pull and hold the breath in, and continue reading with confidence) dream we only need to test tested to build confidence (please read the following while hembuskan sigh) confidence to achieve 9. Tum Spiro, SPERO "Tum Spiro, Spero" means: "During We breathe, We Trying" Dispose of the word surrender in this life. Life is very meaningful, berkaryalah. Because we are human, being extraordinary. Keep fighting until the last breath. Provide time for yourself. To Silence. For Meditation. To daydream. To ssst ... diaaam, so that wisdom be bunyinya. Hening make clear ... Bening makes clear ...

Subject 5 prices

My dearest friends, This five-track Berharga fruit, which is very good for us, let us together renungkan 1. Important lessons to-1 In the months to 2-beginning my lecture, a quiz given to Professor unexpected to us. Because accidental enough heed all lecture-course, I was quickly completed shoptalk quiz, on the matter until the last. The contents of this last question is: Who first name of a woman cleaning the school?. I believe This is a matter of "capricious". I often see her. High, dark blonde and aged around 50's, but how do I know the future ... ? I just collect my exam paper, of only with the answers the last question blank. Before the class after a colleagues ask The professor, about the matter last akan "counted" or not. "Of Calculated Only!" said the Professor. "On the journey karirmu, n aka you meet many people. All important. All you have to note and raised, although the piece is just smile, glance or "hallo"! I always remember that lesson. I then know that the future mother cleaning the school is "Dorothy". 2. Important lessons to-2 Passengers who rains That night, at half twelve at night. A woman neatly MaRia vega that have been aged, is standing at the toll road Alabama. He visible in the rain trying to survive the downpours, which almost such as hurricanes. The car seems to be broken again, and this woman really want to ride the car. In the rain, he tried stop every car that passed by. Next dikendarai by car bule a youth, he stopped to help this mother. Seems si bule does not understand this ethnic conflict akan 1960s, namely the at that time. Youth is finally brought the mother survived until MaRia vega a place, to menda patkan help, and find the mother this taxi. Although it is very visible in a hurry, before ask the mother address the youth about it, write, and to thank love on the youth. 7-day pass, and suddenly the door of the house youth bule diketuk this one. Surprises for him, because that came shipment was a large color television set (1960s) special sent a letter kerumahnya.Terselip small tertempel on television, the its content is: "Thank you bud, as in the way membantuku Toll that night. Rain does not dampen bajuku only, but also soul. Untung you just come and help me. Because of your help, I still find time to attend with my husband who is ... until his death agony. God bless you, because it helps me and not be yourself at the time "Tertanda Ny.Nat King Cole. Note: Nat King Cole, is a singer well MaRia vega thn. 60-an in the USA 3. Subject to pentin g-3: Selalulah note and remember, in all that you serve. At the time of eskrim special (ice cream Sundae) is still low, a child men age 10 years-an entrance to the Coffee Shop Hotel, and sat in the table. About a waitress, and white water dihadapannya. Child is then asked, "How so, the price of ice ... Cream Sundae? "he said." 50 cents ... "reply to the waitress. The children then sakunya and removing the contents and learn the coins in Bag .... "Wow ... If ice cream is just the usual?" he said again. But this time the people who sit on other tables many have started ... and the waitress did not start this patient. "35 cents," said uring while the waitress-uringan. Children and start menghitungi learn more coins of yesteryear dikantongnya. "Bu ... I pesen the ice cream is so-so ... "he said. The waitress then brought ice cream, and placed the paper receipt on the table and continue melengos running. The child was eating ice-cream, paid the cashier, and go. When the waitress returned to this clean the table before a small child, he started crying sentimental. Rapi arranged beside the small empty dishes, there are 2 pieces 10-cent coin 5 fruit and 1-cent coin. You can see ... small children can not be message Sundae Ice-cream, because it does not have enough to give the tip the waitress money "worthy "...... 4. Important lesson to-4 - We are obstructions in the road Days of old, have a King, which places a boulder in the middle of the road. King was hiding, to see if anyone would like to remove the stone from the road. Some of the richest traders who become partners arrived at the king, to walk around the big stone. Many also come, and then call-down the King, because t idak clean road from rintangan.Tetapi none of which would reinforce remove the road with the rock. Then came a farmers, who hold a lot of vegetables. When the close, farmers are then placed first bebannya, and try move the rock kepinggir road. After much pushing and encouraging, he finally succeeded remove the boulder. When the farmers want to adopt again sayurnya, the place of stone before there is a bag containing money and a gold letter of the King. Letters saying that gold is only for people who want remove stones from the road. Farmers and this study, one lesson that we can never understand. That in the any obstacles, hidden opportunities that can be used for improve our lives. 5. Important lesson to-5 - Providing, when needed. That time, when I was a cloud sukarel working in a hospital, I am acquainted with a young girl who named Liz, one of a very serious disease rare. Recover the opportunity, there are only the adiknya, a small man the age of 5 years, the miracle of recovery from the disease same. This antibody has a child who needed to fight the disease. Doctors then tried to explain the full situation medical to a small child, and ask whether he is ready give blood to the sisters daughter. I see the small is in doubt a moment, before taking a long breath and said, "Okay ... I will do so as long as it can .... save kakakku. "Following the process tranfusi blood, the small lying in bed, next to the brother. Face of the elder sister began milk, but the small face began to pale and senyumnya disappear. The small to see the doctor, and ask in a voice that vibrate ... he said "Will I die a doctor immediately ..." Apparently the small little misunderstanding. He felt that he must submit all the blood to save the soul sister. See ... not understanding and attitude is everything .... Your options are only 2: 1. Delete e-mail this 2. Forward to anyone who loved you .... Work as if you do not need money, Mencintailah as if you never dikecewakan, and Joget & nyanyilah seems that no one watching. ... IN THE NIGHT dark, we can see the beautiful BINTANG ...

10 Recipes So Effective Parents

Being a parent is no ideal formula. However, to become effective parents, you 10 may consider the following recipes. "First, recognize your child. Whether he is conscious or jovial. Then treat your child according to the character, do not force children to become characters other, "said psychologist Frieda Mangunsong in Goodbye press'10 How Parents Become Effective in Gran Hotel Melia, Jl HR Rasuna Said, Kuningan, South Jakarta, Wednesday (15/8/2007). Second, when children do not apply cuek sweet and good. Give praise for all the things he did. "Things are small. If he do so with well, do not delay anymore, directly give a compliment, " Frieda said. Third, children must be involved in activities and family decisions. Of course parents should be porsinya adjust to the age of the child. For example, discuss the matter with the holidays and give children the task of households that are lightweight. "For example, fold towel, "Frieda supplement. Fourth, take advantage of the opportunity to juxtapose themselves with children. Even when you are in the middle congestion, take advantage of that time as well as possible for call the child. If there is time watching television together, to instill values in children. "Fifth, provide special time for both of course with children. For example, the take or pick up from school, "he said. Sixth, the discipline must ditegakkan. You must also make sure your version of the same discipline with discipline version nanny or your children. However, do not the discipline as a technique that educate children main. "As a result, parents will be punished and violence in educating children, "said Frieda. Seventh, he continued, be a good example for child. For the child is ingenious and makes the imitator parents as a pattern. "If children want to clean, yes we have to clean. If you do not want children autis, O cerewetlah also occasionally, "funny Frieda. Eighth, ungkapkan love you. Do not consider lightly with the children already know with certainty itself. Words, fondling, cuddle, kiss and have important meaning for them. "You can also give a short letter 'mama pity you 'or to provide pictures or interest hearts with the message 'interest for the child mama', "said Frieda. Ninth, note communication with the child. Do not sure, have eye contact important influence on business it. "If you teriakkan rules or commands from another room, it will not be effective. Do not leave notify you with a cry or something carp, "said Frieda. Tenth, not until you solve the problem when you are angry. For if the words irritate you lontarkan, it is possible that the words in the imprint marrow of children. "Remember, be an example for the children," his him.
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Maximizing Quality of Life After Stroke

My patients, clients, their loved ones, and caregivers have always provided me
with the greatest inspirations. Betty is one of those very special people.
Reflecting on the thought that people come into our lives for a reason, season, or
a lifetime, I knew Betty will be all of those for me. I would like to share her story
so that others who are facing challenges might take away from this hope and an
understanding of how they might create a meaningful life even with major
challenges.
In 1977 Betty had a stroke. Her husband had passed away several years before
and she was only 48 years old at the time. Her children were raised and she was
living on her own. I first met her when I became her therapist at the home of her
brother when she was discharged from rehab. Initially the family was told it was
unlikely she would talk or walk again. Her speech was significantly impaired and
she was paralyzed on her right side. When she was able to walk better with the
use of her quad cane and she became an outpatient at a local hospital where I
had recently started working.
There are several stories that come to mind and one I recall vividly was the
Thanksgiving she presented me with a handmade card on bright orange paper
that she created with the help of her family. I kept it for many years despite many
rounds of cleaning things out of my office. I just could not part with it. She was a
bright light and thinking of her always made me smile.
Betty was always willing to work and although she got frustrated she never gave
up. Some of the little things she did always amazed me and here is a special
memory. Betty decided to make me a birthday cake and not the box mix variety.
She made it from scratch and it was sheet cake size. In order to get it out of the
oven, she had to put towels on her lap. When she arrived at the outpatient
department of the hospital with my cake, not only was it big but it was frosted
AND had roses on it! When I asked her who did that, she proudly told me that
she did. Now I have baked many cakes but never decorated one and could never
imagine adding such an elaborate finishing touch. Here is how amazingly
persevering she could be. She took a Fisher Price radio of the 1970’s era, put
silly putty on the knob, inserted the rose pedestal, and wound up the knob. While
it was turning, she used the decorator bag in her left hand to create these
beautiful roses on top of the cake. WOW!!
It was that positive spirit that made it obvious to me that she would be one of the
3 patients I would feature on the series of videotapes I was creating for patients
to be able to proactive repeating words, phrases, and sentences. She came
dressed up and smiling as always. Later her daughter shared that she felt like a
movie star. For sure, she was a star in so many ways. Her interview included
some of these thoughts as she answered some of these questions, occasionally
hesitating for a word but now able to express herself quite well.
o I was paralyzed and they did not think I would walk or talk again.
o All I could say was four – four – four but I thought I was talking.
o In speech therapy I worked an hour a day practicing. I had trouble with
the longer words. I talked too fast and had to slow down but that was
hard for me. I was afraid I was going to forget my words.
o Occupational therapy helped me to cook – I love cooking but forgot my
recipes.
o I had physical therapy and had to wear a brace.
o Limitations – I get tired but am very independent and live by myself….
but I can usually do anything.
This was in 1985 and through the years I would try to visit her or occasionally
call. Whenever I had a patient in her apartment building, I made sure to stop by
and see what she was up to. She would share with me stories of all the afghans
she had made. Now picture this. She was right handed and cannot use that hand
so she learned to crotchet with her non-dominant hand and yes, that meant she
did it one handed. She loved to cook and told me stories of all the pumpkin
breads she would make. I know in the earlier years she would take her
wheelchair and put it in the car then drive herself to the store and do her
shopping. Her speech was not perfect but she did an excellent job of
communicating and always wanted an update on what was going on in my life.
In the summer of 2006 I had a speech evaluation in her apartment building and
was glad to see her name still listed. It had been awhile and she had been on my
mind. When I called it was not Betty but a caregiver that answered. I wondered
what was happening in her life at this point and I was eager to touch base. Betty
was sitting at the table eating a meal prepared by the caregiver and just as
bright, cheery, and talkative as ever. There was a woman visiting at the time and
I was sharing with her how much of an inspiration Betty had been to me. She
chimed in and agreed with me then shared with me just another example of how
amazing Betty was. There were quilting squares on the table and I commented
on them because I have done some quilting. She said Betty wanted to learn how
to quilt. Now remember she cannot use her right hand. I smiled and knew with
the help of this wonderful friend and her determination it would happen
somehow.
In the spring of 2007 I was saddened to read the paper and see that Betty had
passed away a few days before. I was headed out of town but I was trying to
figure out how I could stop by for a few minutes for the calling hours. I literally
had 15 minutes between appointments but I was able to make it happen.
I sought out one of her children so that I could express to the family my
tremendous admiration for a grand lady and a role model for those whose lives
have been dramatically changed at a young age. Interestingly, her daughter told
me what I had done for her mom. I never even gave that a thought through all
those years. When Betty came to mind, I thought about the gift she was to me. I
would share her story to inspire others and to stay mindful of ways to help others
create meaning in the midst of adversity. What happened next was the perfect
ending to a beautiful story.
Her daughter told me Betty took up quilting and I shared the fact that I just
"happened" to drop in the day this was being discussed. And I am a quilter as
well. I truly believe there are no coincidences! After that visit, she began working
on the quilt and when Betty started to have some new health concerns she told
her daughter she would have to finish the quilt for her if she was not able to do it
herself. Her daughter’s comment was – "Mom, you have to finish it. I have two
hands and one of them will get in the way." Displayed at the funeral home was a
finished quilt except for the backing – a tribute to a woman who was a gift to all
those people who were blessed to have known her. Betty’s spirit will be kept alive
by those who were touched by her life and I feel privileged to be one of the many
fortunate ones.
Happiness is not a matter of events;
it depends on the tides of the mind.
ALICE MEYNELLMy patients, clients, their loved ones, and caregivers have always provided me
with the greatest inspirations. Betty is one of those very special people.
Reflecting on the thought that people come into our lives for a reason, season, or
a lifetime, I knew Betty will be all of those for me. I would like to share her story
so that others who are facing challenges might take away from this hope and an
understanding of how they might create a meaningful life even with major
challenges.
In 1977 Betty had a stroke. Her husband had passed away several years before
and she was only 48 years old at the time. Her children were raised and she was
living on her own. I first met her when I became her therapist at the home of her
brother when she was discharged from rehab. Initially the family was told it was
unlikely she would talk or walk again. Her speech was significantly impaired and
she was paralyzed on her right side. When she was able to walk better with the
use of her quad cane and she became an outpatient at a local hospital where I
had recently started working.
There are several stories that come to mind and one I recall vividly was the
Thanksgiving she presented me with a handmade card on bright orange paper
that she created with the help of her family. I kept it for many years despite many
rounds of cleaning things out of my office. I just could not part with it. She was a
bright light and thinking of her always made me smile.
Betty was always willing to work and although she got frustrated she never gave
up. Some of the little things she did always amazed me and here is a special
memory. Betty decided to make me a birthday cake and not the box mix variety.
She made it from scratch and it was sheet cake size. In order to get it out of the
oven, she had to put towels on her lap. When she arrived at the outpatient
department of the hospital with my cake, not only was it big but it was frosted
AND had roses on it! When I asked her who did that, she proudly told me that
she did. Now I have baked many cakes but never decorated one and could never
imagine adding such an elaborate finishing touch. Here is how amazingly
persevering she could be. She took a Fisher Price radio of the 1970’s era, put
silly putty on the knob, inserted the rose pedestal, and wound up the knob. While
it was turning, she used the decorator bag in her left hand to create these
beautiful roses on top of the cake. WOW!!
It was that positive spirit that made it obvious to me that she would be one of the
3 patients I would feature on the series of videotapes I was creating for patients
to be able to proactive repeating words, phrases, and sentences. She came
dressed up and smiling as always. Later her daughter shared that she felt like a
movie star. For sure, she was a star in so many ways. Her interview included
some of these thoughts as she answered some of these questions, occasionally
hesitating for a word but now able to express herself quite well.
o I was paralyzed and they did not think I would walk or talk again.
o All I could say was four – four – four but I thought I was talking.
o In speech therapy I worked an hour a day practicing. I had trouble with
the longer words. I talked too fast and had to slow down but that was
hard for me. I was afraid I was going to forget my words.
o Occupational therapy helped me to cook – I love cooking but forgot my
recipes.
o I had physical therapy and had to wear a brace.
o Limitations – I get tired but am very independent and live by myself….
but I can usually do anything.
This was in 1985 and through the years I would try to visit her or occasionally
call. Whenever I had a patient in her apartment building, I made sure to stop by
and see what she was up to. She would share with me stories of all the afghans
she had made. Now picture this. She was right handed and cannot use that hand
so she learned to crotchet with her non-dominant hand and yes, that meant she
did it one handed. She loved to cook and told me stories of all the pumpkin
breads she would make. I know in the earlier years she would take her
wheelchair and put it in the car then drive herself to the store and do her
shopping. Her speech was not perfect but she did an excellent job of
communicating and always wanted an update on what was going on in my life.
In the summer of 2006 I had a speech evaluation in her apartment building and
was glad to see her name still listed. It had been awhile and she had been on my
mind. When I called it was not Betty but a caregiver that answered. I wondered
what was happening in her life at this point and I was eager to touch base. Betty
was sitting at the table eating a meal prepared by the caregiver and just as
bright, cheery, and talkative as ever. There was a woman visiting at the time and
I was sharing with her how much of an inspiration Betty had been to me. She
chimed in and agreed with me then shared with me just another example of how
amazing Betty was. There were quilting squares on the table and I commented
on them because I have done some quilting. She said Betty wanted to learn how
to quilt. Now remember she cannot use her right hand. I smiled and knew with
the help of this wonderful friend and her determination it would happen
somehow.
In the spring of 2007 I was saddened to read the paper and see that Betty had
passed away a few days before. I was headed out of town but I was trying to
figure out how I could stop by for a few minutes for the calling hours. I literally
had 15 minutes between appointments but I was able to make it happen.
I sought out one of her children so that I could express to the family my
tremendous admiration for a grand lady and a role model for those whose lives
have been dramatically changed at a young age. Interestingly, her daughter told
me what I had done for her mom. I never even gave that a thought through all
those years. When Betty came to mind, I thought about the gift she was to me. I
would share her story to inspire others and to stay mindful of ways to help others
create meaning in the midst of adversity. What happened next was the perfect
ending to a beautiful story.
Her daughter told me Betty took up quilting and I shared the fact that I just
"happened" to drop in the day this was being discussed. And I am a quilter as
well. I truly believe there are no coincidences! After that visit, she began working
on the quilt and when Betty started to have some new health concerns she told
her daughter she would have to finish the quilt for her if she was not able to do it
herself. Her daughter’s comment was – "Mom, you have to finish it. I have two
hands and one of them will get in the way." Displayed at the funeral home was a
finished quilt except for the backing – a tribute to a woman who was a gift to all
those people who were blessed to have known her. Betty’s spirit will be kept alive
by those who were touched by her life and I feel privileged to be one of the many
fortunate ones.
Happiness is not a matter of events;
it depends on the tides of the mind